As with all the things in life success depends for 90% on preparation. As many of you will be experiencing their first Hungarian wedding and the other will have to get used to having more than just one Dutch person around them we happily prepare you for the party!
Guests are given the go-ahead to have fun and play with their look. Opt for cocktail-party attire featuring bolder colors and playful accessories. With Wildflowers being the theme of our wedding that should be easy to achieve! Main colors are green, red, white, yellow, blue. Peter hates purple so let's avoid that....
For the ladies: A cocktail dress or party dress in a fun color, paired with playful accessories.
For the men: A suit and tie, jazzed up with a bright tie. If you want to feel part of the crowd wear your black suspenders.
Change of the Bride's dress at midnight
Hungarian brides still change their white bridal dress at midnight. Traditionally the new dress is red and it is called the “new wife dress” (“menyecskeruha”). This also symbolizes becoming a wife. Sometimes the groom also changes his shirt to a red one but Peter thinks this looks ridiculous. When they come back in the new dress, the best man announces the new wife and new husband.
We are having a Hungarian wedding which means that it comes with some traditions which are good to be aware of. One of the most important events is the "Menyasszonytanc" which translates to Bride Dance. This is the first chance to dance with the newly wed wife.
During this dance the bride is dancing with each guest (usually with couples and families, not separately with each person). Originally this is the occasion to hand over the wedding gift. The mothers of the bride and the groom used to collect the gifts (or usually cash) and the best man is screaming: “Bride for sale” (“Eladó a menyasszony”)!
The money is collected in a cauldron held be someone close to the couple who hits the cauldron with the Hungarian wooden cocking spoon called a "Fakanál". After the dance it's mandatory to accept a pálinka from the bride her father.
Stealing the bride
WATCH OUT! It's tradition that during the bride dance anyone can steal the bride from the dance floor and carry her off to a hidden spot. In this case it's the groom his responsibility to go and find his wife and bring her back. Don't assume that you can pull this off that easily as the bride will be protected by the groom his brothers and friends.
Pálinka is a traditional fruit brandy in Central Europe with origins from the Hungarian Carpathian Basin, known under several names, and invented in the Middle Ages. Protected as a geographical indication of the European Union, only fruit spirits mashed, distilled, matured and bottled in Hungary can be called "pálinka". Enough dusty words it's simply the most famous and most drank strong liquor in Hungary. It's said that home made Pálinka is the best and you can really taste the different fruits in there. I tend to disagree. It's a great tradition to drink this as it ensures a good party! More specifically during the many Hungarian weddings in the last years we developed a tradition called "Halbe stunde" or "Fél óra" which translates to half hour. I assume everyone can guess what is done every half hour.
Just dance along and act as if you know the lyrics.
In Hungary there is no wedding without "Húsleves" a home made meat soup and the stuffed cabbage at midnight. Don't worry everyone will get to taste both!
Brittle wedding cake (“Pörköltcukor” cake)
The brittle wedding cake is made of melted sugar and ground nut formed into spectacular shapes. Traditionally the bride and the groom break it with a hammer or with their joint hands banded with a kerchief of textile napkin. It is said that they will have so many children as many pieces the brittle cake falls apart to.
Finding your seat during the diner
Besides the fact that we will have arranged seating to mingle all the guest in such a way that you can actually get to know people we also have a logistic game with the photographer Balint. Pictures will be made which will guide you to your table.
Songs and performances
Now that we have explained many of the Hungarian traditions the native guests might ask themselves what about the Dutch traditions?! To be honest we don"t have many of these great cultural experiences as Hungarians have. There is one thing that I'm familiar with though and which is that Dutch people often like to write a song or show some performance which usually ends up with a lot of laughing with the bride and groom.
If you feel like organizing this than please contact our Master of Ceremony whose details you can find on the homepage.